It is amusing how sometimes people leave it to "life" to decide their path. What's more amusing is how when you are born, your fate has been decided by your parents before your name. Times are changing now. Ive been blessed with two sons over the past few years, and I will be lying if I hadn't thought about what my son would one day grow up to be. The feeling of envisioning your son to be something you want him to be is so natural, no matter how much I denied myself, that when my son comes in this world, I will let him be what he wants to be(natural in most eastern cultures). Its only the most fortunate ones who can wake up in the morning, to do the thing that they love the most.
For a person belonging to this eastern culture like me, where a father expects his son to take his place in the "circle of life", it is quite difficult and sometimes impossible to become what he wants to be. Don't get me wrong, my family is not that conservative to the thought. Its not like they are denying me to purse photography, but they aren't letting me pursue it freely either. So my father has developed his business, this brand, and this name for himself in the "market", and he's given 30+ years of his life to it, and expects me to sit in the same place where he sits today and be that man. There is nothing wrong about him feeling that way. I think any father who has achieved something with hard-work, their sweat and blood, will want someone to take over; and that someone will preferably be his heir. Don't get me wrong guys, but I'm stuck in this place, where one part of me, wants what my parents want, and the other part of me wants what I want.
That is key. What I want. People who wake up to do what THEY want to do, is life in itself. Most people do what their parents want or wanted them to do, and accept it as reality, and continue doing it. Its selfless. If Herman Einstein told his son Albert, that son, I've created this company where I have manufactured and sold electrical equipment and I want you to take my place, I don't think the world would've understood the theory of general relativity, let alone revolutionizing the world of physics.
I think I'm really lucky to have a father like my father, and I've learnt a lot from him. Just today in the morning, he asked me to give my ads in the classifieds for my photography business. See he does and says these small things, but there are moments where I'm reminded my place in the "circle of his life". I won't give up hope, especially never in myself to be great. To be someone. Even if Ansel Adams told me my photos sucked, I wouldn't give up!
I believe everyone of us, each and every single human being has the power of being different, and no one is any less then the other. We are all Einsteins; we just need to believe that.
Remember, Everyone's Beautiful!
For a person belonging to this eastern culture like me, where a father expects his son to take his place in the "circle of life", it is quite difficult and sometimes impossible to become what he wants to be. Don't get me wrong, my family is not that conservative to the thought. Its not like they are denying me to purse photography, but they aren't letting me pursue it freely either. So my father has developed his business, this brand, and this name for himself in the "market", and he's given 30+ years of his life to it, and expects me to sit in the same place where he sits today and be that man. There is nothing wrong about him feeling that way. I think any father who has achieved something with hard-work, their sweat and blood, will want someone to take over; and that someone will preferably be his heir. Don't get me wrong guys, but I'm stuck in this place, where one part of me, wants what my parents want, and the other part of me wants what I want.
That is key. What I want. People who wake up to do what THEY want to do, is life in itself. Most people do what their parents want or wanted them to do, and accept it as reality, and continue doing it. Its selfless. If Herman Einstein told his son Albert, that son, I've created this company where I have manufactured and sold electrical equipment and I want you to take my place, I don't think the world would've understood the theory of general relativity, let alone revolutionizing the world of physics.
I think I'm really lucky to have a father like my father, and I've learnt a lot from him. Just today in the morning, he asked me to give my ads in the classifieds for my photography business. See he does and says these small things, but there are moments where I'm reminded my place in the "circle of his life". I won't give up hope, especially never in myself to be great. To be someone. Even if Ansel Adams told me my photos sucked, I wouldn't give up!
I believe everyone of us, each and every single human being has the power of being different, and no one is any less then the other. We are all Einsteins; we just need to believe that.
Remember, Everyone's Beautiful!
you're right about the lucky part. We are fortunate to have been blessed with understanding parents.
ReplyDeleteThat said, stick to your guns buddy...you are going to be great.
Really enjoyed reading this. There is no reason you can't do both and Inshallah you will :)
ReplyDeletei really enjoyed reading this particular article of urs...I think alot of ppl if not everyone can identify with it. The hardest part in most pplz lives is I think following their dream in loving wht THEY want to do. For many reasons not everyones circumstance allows them to do tht....but ur great in many ways in this art & more...hope u keep flowing dude ;)
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